
I'm going to hinge a lot of comments on this simple diagramme.
What I'm saying here is that there are two critical elements to your live performance - the way you look and the way you sound. And for each of those elements there are two aspects - those you control directly (Internal) and those that you must rely on others for (External).
The less you care about your performance, the less anybody else will care about you. Any band can draw a collection of friends and family, and all they need to do is slob onto the stage wearing whatever clothing was not crawling away from them under its own power, play a lifeless rendition of their music, and then get off the stage in time to allow the next band to set up. For those of you who aspire to something better, I'm going to hit on the green an blue segments of this matrix in the next few posts.